Skip to main content

How To Go From "I Will" To "I Am": Morning Affirmations Vs Expectations


After a recent conversation with a dear friend of mine, I realised just how damaging waking up in the morning and ordering yourself to be or to do this and that, we wake up already bombarded with personal expectations and requirements that we put on ourselves either because of society's idea of success or because of our own personal goals and even insecurities. When we load ourselves up with expectations (I will do this today and I must complete this today) we are setting ourselves up for failure, feeling unaccomplished and possibly even guilt or shame. We then go online and compare ourselves to people who have achieved the goals that we set ourselves and we put ourselves down and speak to ourselves and about ourselves with criticism and shame.

How can we replace our morning expectations with morning affirmations and can it really make a difference to our productivity? 

Let's try this out:


I will be happy today.


I am grateful for this new day


I will finish all my tasks today by 12pm


I am efficient, hard working and productive.


I will not lose my temper today.


I am patient, kind and empathetic


I will not be sad today


I am strong, resilient and I can recognise my emotions and am able to ride the wave.


I will do so many activities with my kids today and cook all healthy food. 


I am doing my best, I am an amazing mother and my kids love me for me.


Yesterday was terrible! Today I will do better!


I have good days and bad days. Yesterday didn't go as planned but these things happen and its okay.

These are some basic examples, but the aim is to change the way you speak to yourself, one of my favourite quotes demonstrates this perfectly. 

‘Do not speak badly of yourself, for the warrior that is inside you hears your words and is lessened by them. You are strong and you are brave. There is a nobility of spirit within you. Let it grow – you will do well enough‘

– Chareos, to Kiall, Quest For Lost Heroes

Now this is not to say you can't plan your day or write a checklist of tasks and reminders, anyone who knows me knows I love my lists and ultimately have the memory of a goldfish and need these lists to stop me from forgetting important tasks of the day and to stop procrastinating, I'm simply saying don't pressurise yourself to do it all and change the way you speak to yourself, especially in the morning, don't forget you are setting the tone for the rest of your day.


Popular posts from this blog

The Lady In The Other Hospital Bed

Storytime! I hope you're sitting comfortably because this is a story you'll want to read, there's a moral behind it, and it's true! Here we go... The news of my first pregnancy brought me so much joy; I was thrilled to be pregnant and to carry life, I was excited about being a mum and having a bump, I was looking forward to the 'pregnancy glow' and feeling the little kicks and hiccups I'd heard so much about from other mums. I was not prepared for what came the next 8 months and it certainly wasn't what I had expected. From about week 6 of my pregnancy, I had the usual symptoms including feeling tired, bloated and what I thought was regular morning sickness. But it turned out to be Hyperemesis Gravidarum  (pretty sure I spelt that right - I hope) in layman's terms it's basically morning sickness but throughout the day and every day and to the point, you can't swallow solids - including the prenatal vitamins and barely any water thro

Minute Method - A Cure for Separation Anxiety?

A child's cry is one of the most heartbreaking sounds you'll ever hear, made worse if it's your child and if the reason they are crying is because they want you. It's absolutely heart-wrenching and we've all been there. You've just placed your toddler in bed, given them their favourite teddy and tucked them in and just as you're creeping out of the room - much like you would creep out of a den of sleeping lions - your child lets out a whimper, then a cry, then a scream. Sounds familiar? Well, momma, I have the solution for you. My 2-year-old went through the majority of her tiny life with a structured sleep routine that I was very proud of - might I say so myself - and so it came as a shock to me when one day, out of the blue, she refused to sleep in her bed. She screamed as soon as I put her in her crib and screamed more as I left the room. I was very confused and instantly thought she'd had a nightmare and that has caused her to be frighten

How to Protect Your Kids From Sexual Abuse

Child abuse is one of the hardest topics to discuss and one of the hardest situations to be in, whether you are parent or child. But unfortunately we cannot continue to brush it under the rug and pretend it doesn't exist. It does and it is a mean, ugly monster but one that acts friendly and sweet only to trap you in it's arms and leave your physically and emotionally bruised. It is your responsibility, as a parent or guardian to be vigilant and to protect your children from abusers, here are some tips recommended by psychologists and police officers regarding this issue. Communicate with your child Have an open line of communication between yourself and your children from a very young age, ask them about their day, what they read, what they drew, who they spoke to, who they are friends with. Anything that is on their mind. Don't interrogate, rather be curious. Make it a habit to pull them aside every day after school but be sure not to scold or judge them and ma