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How To Go From "I Will" To "I Am": Morning Affirmations Vs Expectations

 



After a recent conversation with a dear friend of mine, I realised just how damaging waking up in the morning and ordering yourself to be or to do this and that, we wake up already bombarded with personal expectations and requirements that we put on ourselves either because of society's idea of success or because of our own personal goals and even insecurities. When we load ourselves up with expectations (I will do this today and I must complete this today) we are setting ourselves up for failure, feeling unaccomplished and possibly even guilt or shame. We then go online and compare ourselves to people who have achieved the goals that we set ourselves and we put ourselves down and speak to ourselves and about ourselves with criticism and shame.

How can we replace our morning expectations with morning affirmations and can it really make a difference to our productivity? 

Let's try this out:

Expectation:

I will be happy today.

Affirmation:

I am grateful for this new day


Expectation:

I will finish all my tasks today by 12pm

Affirmation:

I am efficient, hard working and productive.


Expectation:

I will not lose my temper today.

Affirmation:

I am patient, kind and empathetic


Expectation:

I will not be sad today

Affirmation:

I am strong, resilient and I can recognise my emotions and am able to ride the wave.


Expectation:

I will do so many activities with my kids today and cook all healthy food. 

Affirmation:

I am doing my best, I am an amazing mother and my kids love me for me.


Expectation:

Yesterday was terrible! Today I will do better!

Affirmation:

I have good days and bad days. Yesterday didn't go as planned but these things happen and its okay.



These are some basic examples, but the aim is to change the way you speak to yourself, one of my favourite quotes demonstrates this perfectly. 



‘Do not speak badly of yourself, for the warrior that is inside you hears your words and is lessened by them. You are strong and you are brave. There is a nobility of spirit within you. Let it grow – you will do well enough‘

– Chareos, to Kiall, Quest For Lost Heroes


Now this is not to say you can't plan your day or write a checklist of tasks and reminders, anyone who knows me knows I love my lists and ultimately have the memory of a goldfish and need these lists to stop me from forgetting important tasks of the day and to stop procrastinating, I'm simply saying don't pressurise yourself to do it all and change the way you speak to yourself, especially in the morning, don't forget you are setting the tone for the rest of your day.

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